Objective To investigate the impact of virtual reality (VR)-based social skills training combined with parental behavioral interventions on social skills and anxiety in children with autism. Methods A total of 100 children with autism diagnosed and admitted to the First People's Hospital of Shangqiu from May 2024 to May 2025 were selected as research subjects. They were randomly divided into the observation group and control group, with 50 cases in each group. Children in the control group received parental behavioral interventions alone, while those in the observation group received VR-based social skills training combined with parental behavioral interventions. The scores of Griffiths development scales (GDS), autism treatment evaluation checklist (ATEC), quality of life scale, Screen for Child Anxiety Related Emotional Disorders (SCARED), Psychoeducational Profile-Third Edition (PEP-3), and Childhood Autism Rating Scale (CARS) were compared between the two groups. Results Compared with values before interventions, post-intervention scores of personal-social, visual performance, hand-eye coordination, hearing and language, gross motor skills, practical reasoning, cognitive function, emotional function, physical health, and PEP-3 in both groups were significantly elevated (P<0.05), while the scores of social interaction, language communication, sensory cognition, health behavior, SCARED, and CARS were significantly reduced (P<0.05). Compared with the control group, children in the observation group had significantly higher scores of personal-social, visual performance, hand-eye coordination, hearing and language, gross motor skills, practical reasoning, cognitive function, emotional function, physical health, and PEP-3 (P<0.05), as well as significantly lower scores of social interaction, language communication, sensory cognition, health behavior, SCARED, and CARS after intervention (P<0.05). Conclusion VR-based social skills training combined with parental behavioral interventions can better promote the development of social skills and alleviate anxiety-related manifestations in children with autism.